The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1
This is my go to verse when I'm having one of those days. I want to be a wise woman and build my house, through both my words and actions. My house isn't the building I live in, it's the people that live inside of it. The people are my husband and children, my gifts from God.
Having to wear many hats simultaneously can leave me stressed and exhausted. I don't know about you but this is a dangerous combination for me. My filter tends to fall off and you just never know what I'm going to say. Just because I'm tired doesn't mean that I get to say the first thing that comes to my mind.
In order to model wise behavior for my children and to respect my husband I try to implement different reactions when my filter is faulty. I've been known to stop mid-sentence to just pray for myself, asking God to make my words sweet like honey. Other times I choose to bite my tongue. I'm not talking about a cold shoulder, just choosing not to say anything and asking to come back to this conversation later. Pausing and thinking before I speak is a tough one, but it helps me to truly analyze what I'm going to say. Is it going to build my house?
Proverbs 10:19 says "In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise." I'm truly a work in progress. God has been really working on helping me with self control. Some days look better than others. For some reason, God has trusted me with this house, so I will do my best to be a wise woman. It's not always easy, some days I want to just speak my mind, but my goal is to build my house and model Christ like behavior for my family through my words and my actions. "In my weakness He is made strong"